10.12.06

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Posted in Random at 3:38 pm by salafiya

bleh bleh bleh….was stupid.

9 Comments »

  1. Umm Layth said,

    October 12, 2006 at 6:40 pm

    wa `alaykum as-Salaamu wa Rahmatullaahi wa Barakaatuhu

    Yes it is. But will ya?

    I don’t know if I would do it that way (maybe it depends on my anger level lol). I am the type that does that now that I think about it.

  2. afghaaniyeh said,

    October 12, 2006 at 7:13 pm

    Hmm, I never had this problem. People are usually really nice to me for some reason. Don’t make that comment out loud, just confront her yourself, don’t wait for her to come to you. Make convo darling!

    If you dont want to do that, then just ignore it.

  3. Editor said,

    October 13, 2006 at 11:53 am

    I’ve learnt that a problem bigger than backbiting is people conveying that piece of gossip to the victim. Perhaps it constitutes nameemah, hopefully not. But I simply fail to see the point of anyone letting you know exactly what’s being said behind your back. What is the reason for doing so? They love you? They probably do but the act of relating the backbiting is far from an act of love.

    When you convey such a malicious piece of information - no matter how good your intention - the original context and tone is often lost, exaggerated or misconstrued. Thus the recipient gets upset, angry and defensive.

    Your situation above is actually very much case in point. You only “think” she’s trying to say such and such. And why even think of fighting with her?

    We’re told to be careful not to convey even praise (actual good stuff!) said behind someone’s back as this might lead them to fall into riya’/kibr. What more gossip/slander?

    I’m sorry if this was a bit of a lighthearted post and I’m being all serious. I just really want to advise sisters to never allow yourselves to be emotionally trapped by such conveyances. When someone is about to tell you something so nasty being said behind your back, even though they mean only well for you, tell them to STOP… Because it may very well fall into backbiting. If not the piece of information in itself, then the conversation that surely ensues. Don’t be deceived that just because the message was quoted verbatim, you can justify it to be “true” and “ok”. Because what follows in knowing such a thing is hard to control.

    One of those few cases in which ignorance is really bliss. And Allah knows best.

    :-)

  4. Haneefah said,

    October 13, 2006 at 3:50 pm

    wow, subhanAllah. That’ll make me wanna fight. But hey remember last ten days of Ramadhan! Make it the best! Try to avoid conflicts. And learn karate man. If you know she has a knife I’d stay away. And why can’t your cousins say anything to her? Are they Muslims? I know I’d defend my family. Anyways the point is try to get your cousins to tell her thats it not a towel or you confront her. And have a back up plan just in case something goes wrong (inshaAllah nothing will) but you know just in case.

    Also dont stoop to the level of the kufaar. Theyre dumb man. So iggnorant. They will never accept your ways or you until you’ve accepted your religion. Allah even says so, subhanAllah. That’s my habit I got to get out of. Listening to these kufaar and getting angry. InshaAllah if we keep on the straight path we’ll be having the last laugh =).

    Ok enough typing. You might not read my reply =P.

    Love ya fillah sis. Take care of yourself. Tell me how it goes inshaAllah.

  5. Sam said,

    October 13, 2006 at 4:49 pm

    Her talking behind your back just shows how weak she is, having to resort to that method rather than saying it to your face. That in itself is a reason to ignore her, confronting her only when she confronts you. And if it ever leads to a face-to-face exchange of words, be the wiser one and keep your cool. If negative comments fly your way, simply smile them away and gain the hasanat. What irks the non-believers the most is when their ignorant actions are confronted with adab and calmness…not stooping to their level is what annoys them the most, putting some sense into them and letting them realize what fools they are.

    May Allah be with you…

  6. salafiya said,

    October 14, 2006 at 7:39 am

    Sorry, haven’t been able to read most of your comments until today.

    Well, I thought about going up to her (we have one class together) and ask her why she said that stuff, but I don’t want my cousins getting in trouble. So we’ll see what I do. She’s a kaffirah so I didn’t really mind….it’s just that I was startled because most people are actually pretty nice to me.

    jazakAllaah khair for your advice, all of you.

    Eddy, I appreciate the scold. lol, I really did need it. But one honest question…is there backbiting of the kuffar? Ya3nee, I read we can backbite innovators to warn others and since she’s a kaffirah….Allaahu Alam

    Umm Layth, I thought about the story you told me of the resturaunt and thought of doing that, but I think that’d just make her talk badly about Islaam even more.

    Afghaanee, who couldn’t resist being nice to you? =p But yeah, same here….people are pretty ‘tolerant’. That’s why I was kinda shocked when I heard what she said.

    Haneeeeefah, yes my cousins are Muslims Alhumdulillah. I don’t know why they didn’t say anything. Probably had a good reason, Allaahu Alam. LOL @ back up plan. If I do go up to her, it will be quietly during the class we have together so I don’t think she’d try anything then. I always did want to learn karate. I guess Tae-Bo will do =P. But yeah, I went for taraweeh last night and all my wordly troubles just slipped out of my mind & I realized later that it’s just not worth it. I love you sisters fillah too. And may Allaah, for whose sake we love one another, love us…Ameen

    Sam, jazakAllaah khair. I just want her to know that I know so she can feel some sort of guilt thus giving me a good da3wah oppurtunity. Most people when they talk about people behind their backs don’t realize that a lot of times, the person they were talking about will come to find out.

    Anyways, I’ll keep you updated if anything happens

  7. Maverick said,

    October 15, 2006 at 2:15 pm

    Nah. Just leave her as is. You’re giving her too much attention by wanting to respond to her. Maintain your dignity and carry on - people will always talk no matter what you do.

  8. Q8ibloger said,

    October 15, 2006 at 6:54 pm

    asalamu aleykum

    just let her fry in her envy!
    and dont get into trouble

  9. salafiya said,

    October 18, 2006 at 10:33 pm

    Wa Alaikum Assalam Wa Rahmatullah

    Yeah, this girl is crazy. I just found out that she’s the one who stabbed a boy for stealing apple juice. sheesh.

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